At my PMI Meeting several weeks ago, we had a guest speaker for lunch, Lisa DiTullio, a Project Management Consultant. Her keynote speech was on the subject of Leadership. One of the opening quotes was "You know you have experience and knowledge...others see it as arrogance." I have to admit this struck a chord with me as I have had that type of feedback before. Not that a certain amount of arrogance is a bad thing - I am good at what I do, I have been around the block several times, and I can say that I am right more than I am wrong. You can call that arrogance, but I think it is more accurately reflected as experience and confidence.
Lisa likes to focus on four ways to LEAD - Listen, Encourage, Act, and Delegate.
Listen: Listen to suggestions without judgment, and say "Thank You."
Encourage: Please, Thank you, I'm Sorry, I don't know. Are you comfortable making these statements.
Act: Set Expectations, Establish the Ground Rules, Follow-up.
Delegate: It means "letting go." You need to make sure the expectations are clear.
Make sure you maintain a balance. Know what is important, but live by your rules :o) I believe that these aspects of leadership are applicable in our every day lives. I know I do my best to live by these attributes, do you ???