Dec 29, 2011

Unconditioned Happiness

When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down 'happy'. They told me I didn't understand the assignment, and I told them they didn't understand life." 

Typically we are happy when things are going well and unhappy when they aren't. Usually, "going well" means we are getting what we want, the way we want it.

That's conditioned happiness. Unconditioned happiness is an intrinsic sense of well being that is not based on the way things are around us. 

Unconditioned happiness has a deep quality of satisfaction while conditioned happiness is more on the surface, more like a flaming fire as opposed to one that is generating deep warmth without the flames.

When happiness relies on external conditions it is limited. Unhappiness is caused by wanting things to be different from the way they can be. Based on this wanting we run after things, pushing others out of the way to get them, or we get possessive and in our attempt to protect what is ours we are willing to cause harm to others or isolate ourselves.

Happiness comes from living a life in which one makes the effort to do no harm and to do positive things as much as possible. Positive things are things that help others.

I wish you true happiness!

Source: 2011 Pitagorsky Consulting


  1. That's one of the things my parents taught their kids: all you really get in life is happiness, so work for that.

  2. i love that lennon quote but even more the advice you end your post on. preach it brother!


  3. This one is definitely a winner. Life is good when you are truly happy with yourself and your station in life.
    I like it.

  4. I am forwarding this to someone who truly need it.
    Thanks again!!!

  5. That is such a great Lennon quote, and it makes me sad and happy whenever I see it. Happy because I believe he'd found that happiness, and sad because he was taken before his time, when he had so many more years ahead of him to enjoy the happiness he'd found with Yoko. :'(

  6. Obviously, conditioned happiness is no kind of happiness. Just me.
    Do no harm and do positive things. I try.
    John Lennon is one of my heroes btw.

  7. Lennon quote is priceless. In my life I have learned that an intrinsic sense of well being is MORE important to me, than anything else. I just LET IT BE. The rest takes care of itself. Have a healthy and happy 2012. Take care.


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