Feb 24, 2012


Students creating the words Ugly, Hateful, Stupid and Knucklehead.
Working with someone you hate can be distracting and draining. Pompous jerk, annoying nudge, or incessant complainer, an insufferable colleague can negatively affect your attitude and performance. Instead of focusing on the work you have to do together, you may end up wasting time and energy trying to keep your emotions in check and attempting to manage the person's behavior. Fortunately, with the right tactics, you can still have a productive working relationship with someone you can't stand.

Avoiding people you don't like is generally a successful tactic but it's not always possible in a workplace. Consider the following advice.

· Manage your own reaction to the behavior first
· Practice emotional detachment so the person's behaviors don't bother you
· Spend time trying to get to know the person and better understand what motivates him

· Assume that it is all about the other person — you likely play some part
· Commiserate with others who could be unfairly influenced by your negativity or may judge you for your complaints
· Give feedback unless you can focus on work issues and can avoid a personal conflict 



  1. I'm sending this to my daughter. She has been on the giving and receiving end of this banter for years. Thanks for sharing. Take care.

  2. Good stuff. Hard to listen to. I was in one position like this, with a boss that just had to micro manage. Drove me crazy, and I left a good job in GITMO early, and then that dude left immediately afterwards, I coulda stayed at a tropical paradise. hahahahahaha

    Live and learn, where were you with this advice in 1970? CRAP!


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