tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4240652707324624619.post1269501483793709938..comments2024-01-05T00:11:18.793-05:00Comments on Bucko's World: Feedback - Avoid Making Others DefensiveKen Richeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09425810816600512504noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4240652707324624619.post-71704966512230871052009-02-07T01:15:00.000-05:002009-02-07T01:15:00.000-05:00Ken, You ALWAYS make me think!!!!Ken, You ALWAYS make me think!!!!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13142165989773432032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4240652707324624619.post-22718838626112139082009-02-04T22:13:00.000-05:002009-02-04T22:13:00.000-05:00Good advice. I'll try those. Thanks for sharing.Good advice. I'll try those. Thanks for sharing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4240652707324624619.post-28298007884956359402009-02-04T21:00:00.000-05:002009-02-04T21:00:00.000-05:00Good information & sound advice. I do need to...Good information & sound advice. I do need to work on these skills.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01177123397341454032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4240652707324624619.post-48781143320810608252009-02-04T20:09:00.000-05:002009-02-04T20:09:00.000-05:00This is good stuff, and on some folks it works and...This is good stuff, and on some folks it works and on others it doesn't. Always good to be reminded how to play fair.How I See Ithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09376837972805824453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4240652707324624619.post-49688861572574005182009-02-04T13:35:00.000-05:002009-02-04T13:35:00.000-05:00This is a sticky issues. For me, in providing fee...This is a sticky issues. For me, in providing feedback, I try to make folks at ease by allowing for my own failings as best example.<BR/><BR/>By doing this, I think I take away the 'well, how would you know, did it work for you?' defense, by pointing out that I am certain of what doesn't work and why. Then I stress what works, and why it worked. <BR/><BR/>Then, I make sure that everyone takes a piece, so that they own all of the circumstance. Failing at any level, could result in failure at all levels, some could be catastrophic. By giving as many as I can a 'piece of the rope', then everyone has to take a part of the result.<BR/><BR/>This creates, IMO, a shared responsiblity in the outcome. Everyone is invested in a positive result. That is part of my philosophy, and what I believe in.Big Mark 243https://www.blogger.com/profile/10974573439218884164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4240652707324624619.post-46323843365285343742009-02-04T13:14:00.000-05:002009-02-04T13:14:00.000-05:00uhhh..yeah...you mean go at it like a coach..this ...uhhh..yeah...you mean go at it like a coach..<BR/>this stuff is good (list) and this stuff..will kill you...right?<BR/>hugs,natalie<BR/>p.s what did you make of Dirk's post and Tom's post? please let me know..thanks<BR/> natalienataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16460459444680469628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4240652707324624619.post-19529717332782786912009-02-04T10:49:00.000-05:002009-02-04T10:49:00.000-05:00I think Rebecca is right--some people are so natur...I think Rebecca is right--some people are so naturally defensive that anything you say makes them get their hackles up. THAT is hard to deal with! But in general, people will understand that they, personally, aren't being attacked, and this is good advice on how to get that across.<BR/><BR/>B.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05149068921334726430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4240652707324624619.post-19779441625731915602009-02-04T09:04:00.000-05:002009-02-04T09:04:00.000-05:00Thats the fine art in communication that I believe...Thats the fine art in communication that I believe to be one of the most difficult. Since people are generally self protective of themselves, anytime we enter the feedback, bother, improvement zone we risk hurt feelings or offending. Your ideas are solid and hopefully I'll get to test them out sometime today~~ Probably on the teens of mine<BR/>Rebecca~Rebecca Anne~https://www.blogger.com/profile/07689450535488470219noreply@blogger.com